We are all different and our differences provide contrast in our life’s to make the world a more interesting place. We all have our own personal preferences, likes and dislikes, pet-loves and hates and our personalities encapsulate the choices we make. We would live in a very boring world if everyone saw things exactly the same way and thankfully we don’t.

The fact that two people can disagree doesn’t mean one is right and one is wrong. I love Football (the soccer variety for international readers!) but I fully appreciate that many across the world don’t and like some other sport. In fact another group of people dislike sport with a vengeance. (Now they must be wrong, surely, I mean what is wrong with these people – of course, I jest and I reemphasise that these are just personal choices and these differences amongst us provide the immense choices we all have available to us today).

I used sport in the example above, but each and everyday we make choices in all areas of our life. The choices we make will have a bearing on the direction our life takes and if we manage to succeed or not in whatever pursuit we take up. Some of these are short term choices with likely very little lasting consequences; what I will have for breakfast? Others are more long term; what career choice will I make? However, the choices we make are only one factor in how things will turn out. It is how you approach the choices we all make and the ‘mindset’ you adopt that will be the biggest determinate of success or failure.

In simplistic terms do you have a positive optimistic outlook on life or a negative pessimistic one? If you approach things from a stance of negativity each challenge or hurdle that comes your way will be a major trauma for you. A ‘negatively’ minded person will give up before they achieve their goal. The fact that they ‘fail’ and cannot complete the task at hand re-enforces their mindset and they take the view ‘I told you so. I said I wouldn’t be able to do that and I was right’.

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t — you are right”- Henry Ford

 Of course, a positive person would approach each challenge that comes their way differently. They are more determined to reach their goal. They understand that everything won’t be ‘plain sailing’ but will ensure that each obstacle they are confronted with will be overcome. Either by their own efforts, educating themselves where need be, or locating people who can help them out. Either way, they manage to complete the task and as a consequence they ‘grow’ as a result. They become better as a consequence and the next time faced with a similar situation it is easier to complete. This ability to succeed at something is self-fueling. The more someone with a positive and optimistic outlook succeeds they more they want to achieve.

The “Law of Attraction” is at work here, as so famously talked about in the film “The Secret”.

Since I started my blog and have freely helped people out since day one I have seen many examples of the principles of the “Law of Attraction” in action. People’s actions and statements often reveal their truly intentions; if they are a ‘giver’ or a ‘taker’, positive or negative, optimist or pessimist. I could give some extreme examples of the negativity of people I have encountered on some rare occasions since my blog has been up and running or of examples I have witnessed on Twitter. Similarly, I have witnessed some fantastic positive contributions by people and I feel privileged to have encountered these. I am sure you could do the same. It is these extreme examples that highlight the nature of what I am talking about here. One can instantly tell by the reactions of some people; if they will be a success or a failure. In those extreme cases it really is as simple as that I feel. In the areas in between, where many people fall, the consequences are not as clear-cut but without doubt those with a positive slant, faced with the same situation as a negative-minded person will make far more progress than the latter.        

Of course, anyone who in the past has had a negative bias can at any point choose to take an alternate route. Choose to believe that anything they set out to do they can achieve. Take solace from that fact that for most people the goals we try to strive for have probably been achieved by someone else. Thus any challenges you encounter along the way, someone knows the solution. In order to be truly successful, you must not give up when confronted by such situations instead plan a way to overcome them. But of course you have to really take this on board.

I have been privileged to attend many seminars and workshops by the world renowned personal development coach Tony Robbins. He has a knack, a gift, to truly make people understand their own deep down constraints that hold them back and I am better for those experiences.  

But in the end it all comes back to choices. You can choose to accept the apparent easier route to failure by not pushing yourself or choose the path to success and grow as a consequence. I know which path I have chosen and any negativity or obstacles along the way are brushed aside. I hope you are of character where you will do the same. People of like minds always gel together. In the world of online business it is particularly important. You have far better chance of establishing Joint Venture (JV) Partners along the way by being positive rather than negative. I will leave you all with that thought :-)

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